HEY HEARTUN~ Once i came to Second Life and found the Scat Lovers group I cried in https://scatlover.net/ relief. You see, I’m a 24 yr outdated government assistant for a Fortune 500 company and my husband and i stay the American Dream - but I secretly smear my very own feces all over me, or roll in it, as I masturbate.

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I’ve been doing it for years, since I used to be a girl. It started in the shower in my mother and father home. The home my husband and i dwell in has wooden floors, leather furniture, linoleum, and different exhausting surfaces that clear up effectively - as a result of I've ‘christened’ every room in the house.

My husband doesn’t know, and I am positive he wouldn’t understand. So finding others who share my fetish for the first time has lifted a lifetime of shame from my shoulders - even when solely in Second Life. I really like my actual life husband, however am on the lookout for a Second Life partner for mutual Scat love. Will this jeopardize my marriage? ~ SCAT LOVER

Dear SCAT: Will having a secret lover in Second Life jeopardize your marriage in real life? No, not necessarily. Unfortunately, your actual life marriage might already be doomed. Every marriage has some secrets and techniques, like how many lovers you’ve had up to now or that thing your spouse does that secretly annoys you. These secrets differ from the one you might be maintaining in that they don't seem to be issues that basically outline who you might be.

Your life-long love of ‘smearing’ scat sounds prefer it is a huge part of your sexuality. It sounds like something you need, and will apparently hunt down a partner for. Telling your husband, and not telling him, are each fraught with danger.

I like giving advice, but on this one I’m not going to try to inform you what to do. Staying within the closet (outhouse?) or laying it all out for him both bring too many unknowns and will probably have unforeseen consequences. Holding on to your secret is safe, however you’re holding on to concern and disgrace while you accomplish that. Bravely revealing your kink to your husband is a a lot lighter emotional burden, but may lead to dropping him altogether. And as somebody who went by way of one divorce I can tell you that no one will get through that unscathed - although there may be peace on the other side, generally.

If you are taking on a Second Life lover you can be building a nest of little lies to hide your massive secret, and that burden solely will get bigger. It may be one that solves your downside, and there are people in Second Life who keep SL in SL and RL in RL… however don’t suppose that journey is simple or simple. Should you discover a trusted friend in the Scat Lovers group who is in the same situation, speak with them about what they're doing and how it’s understanding. Have conversations with a number of such individuals if you may, but do so to assist yourself discover what ‘feels right’ for you.

As with all kink, in my view, there isn't a disgrace being a scat lover. How you behave in direction of others, however, has consequences that you will have to dwell with. I want you the most effective as you find out what works for you. In time, please write once more and inform us.